When you really want to break something, or send someone away, shave your head bald and walk off into the sunset barefoot through a field of daisies... No, I'll start differently. When your inner punk wants to do something, like when you were 16, but you're an adult and serious person and you understand that, most likely, in a day or two you'll regret what you did...
Sometimes problematic behaviors arise from a desire to rebel and
behave in a defiant manner, such as "Don't tell me what to do."
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers a skill from the Distress
section tolerance (Stress tolerance), to channel that energy into
something less destructive than the problematic behavior. This skill is
primarily designed for addicts, but it works just as well for ordinary
people in difficult situations, as does everything in DBT.
Alternative rebellion - rebel in a way that doesn't end up hurting
yourself or others, making the situation worse, or going against your
goals. Do something small, out of the ordinary - but not irreversible.
On the Beauty and the borderline has a list compiled by members of the
groups:
- leaving the lights on all day - turning up the volume on the radio or
TV - drawing on your leg with a ballpoint pen like in elementary school
- wearing underwear or a T-shirt with offensive words on it - going to
bed late - doing things out of order - doing something out of
character, like putting on bright makeup on your own - speaking where
you normally wouldn't (unless it's dangerous) - dressing in an unusual
way - yelling alone - going to the movies late at night on a weekday -
giving an honest answer instead of a polite one - saying "no" to a
friend or family member when they ask for a favor... P.S. I'm OK
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